Memory Garden
How do we keep the memory of a loved one alive?
Jade Goody’s sons are to light an eternal flame in her memory to mark her first anniversary. They will place the lantern on her memorial stone in a remembrance garden. Jackiey Burden has said her memorial service on March 21st will be ‘a day to remember Jade in a nice way- her laughter and her love.’
But do you find it difficult to mark people’s passing every year? How do you remember those you’ve lost? And are grave sites good to reflect in?
The memory of a loved one is a symbol, to which you attach many other memories.
For instance, over the years: you have moments you remember, things you did together, experiences of various kinds. All those things become attached to the symbol “Mr X or Mrs A”. So when they die, the role that this person has in your life and the role you have in their life has no way to express itself. Thus there is grief: not for the person who is dead, but for a part of yourself which has no way to express itself, because the target of that expression has died.
Thus there is a void in you, which you can either allow to remain, or you can look for another person(s) with which you can express affection toward.
You see we human beings are very envious peoples. We restrict who we give affection to based upon our idea of what is gratifying to us or not. We say: “I find this person attractive”, then later “now not so attractive”. This restriction we place upon ourselves means that we have only one person with which to express ourselves with, for that particular role. We give people titles such as: husband, son, father, mother, boss, collegue; thus, we are only able to interact with those people within the mental frame in which we place them into. We become committed to that person (for the role our brain projects upon them), much in the way that a person becomes committed to a political party, or to ones country.
Our brains are divisive, because of this, we suffer grief when a person dies.
So when death occurs, we feel that our idea of “love” has just died, but that idea in the first place was the result of envy, the desire to have a person as our own for the particular role we require them for.
Memory Garden – Carnage Carnival
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North States Supergate Top-Notch Gate $14.50 Keep your pets safely sectioned off in their designated area with this durable gate. Gate features adjustable pressure-mounting with exclusive memory lock feature. Designed to fit doorways and openings measuring 28″ x 41″ x 23.”… |
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Cricut DesignStudio Software with Bonus Pack $18.95 This design studio is a phenomenal creation! With this program, you can load your Cricut cartridges (not included), and mix and match the designs from all of your cartridges to make truly unique designs. Features: On screen cutting mat with measuring grid, pop-down menu bar, cartridge selection window which lists your cartridges, your favorites, and allows you to search using keywords, an automati… |
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Sleep Innovations 12-inch Sure Temp Memory Foam Mattress … |
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Precious Memories $6.47 A few decades ago nearly every country singer had at least one–often more–gospel albums in their catalog. Today, aside from gospel veteran Amy Grant, who balances the sacred and secular, and Randy Travis, that concept has long faded. For Alan Jackson, however, treating the musical past as present has been a way of life, as it is with these 15 timeless hymns from his youth. Recorded with just two… |
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Core $5.27 *Artist: STONE TEMPLE PILOTS *Genre: Popular Music *Release Date: 29-SEP-1992… |
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Precious Memories $9.99 … |
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The Butchart Gardens: A Video Memory $10.92 … |
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Loadumper6TM Cart $199 Heavy-duty, non-corrosive polyethylene tub on the Loadumper yard and garden cart has no ridges to catch materials, holds 6 cubic feet of soil or mulch. Powder-coated rust-resistant steel tube chassis. 14″ memory-foam flat-free tires. Easy to assemble. |
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Garden Stake – Rosemary $21.95 Garden Stake by Kelly Gardens Art™ Art Inspired by Nature. Adorn your garden with these decorative garden stakes. White 4 ¼” tile is set into an 8 ¼” x 8 ¼” holder atop a 20” stake. All solid iron with black powder-coated finish. Generous size will stand out in your garden, or in pots on your deck or patio. |
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Fiskars Phone & Garden Pocket $14.95 Strap it around your waist to carry your phone, beeper, pruner, seeds, even bottled water – conveniently while you do your yard work. Padded pocket protects your phone as you work; hear-thru mesh means no more missed calls. Second pocket can hold a variety of garden tools; also features a key latch and pencil loop. Attractive and durable nylon material. |
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Owl with Rotating Head $34.95 Chase away garden nibblers with this life-size replica of a Great Horned Owl. So realistic looking! Head bobs and turns in gentle breezes. Startles birds and other critters who try to snack on your garden’s delights. 18″ tall, it’s an imposing presence in your garden. Perfect for the garden, on decks, boat docks, rafters, barns, open porches, and patios. (Pole not included). |
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OXO Good Grips Gel™-e Fork $12.95 Comfort comes to the garden! These innovative garden tools have soft, non-slip, flexible handles for a comfortable grip. Handles have oversize holes for easy hanging. Those with the blue-tinted Gel™-e feature provide extra cushioning when you dig in hard soil. |
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OXO® Good Grips® Gel™-e Weeder $12.95 Comfort comes to the garden! These innovative garden tools have soft, non-slip, flexible handles for a comfortable grip. Handles have oversize holes for easy hanging. Those with the blue-tinted Gel™-e feature provide extra cushioning when you dig in hard soil. |
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Assembled Mantis Electric Tiller $379 Weighing only 21 pounds, the incredibly powerful but lightweight Mantis Electric Tiller / Cultivator tills even the hardest of soils. The secret is the patented Mantis serpentine tines! Use the Mantis Electric Tiller to easily break new ground when you’re ready to start your garden. Once your garden is established, use the Mantis Electric Tiller to cultivate and weed. Maintaining your garden has never been easier! |
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Mantis Electric Tiller $349 Weighing only 21 pounds, the incredibly powerful but lightweight Mantis Electric Tiller / Cultivator tills even the hardest of soils. The secret is the patented Mantis serpentine tines! Use the Mantis Electric Tiller to easily break new ground when you’re ready to start your garden. Once your garden is established, use the Mantis Electric Tiller to cultivate and weed. Maintaining your garden has never been easier! |
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